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楼主不会聊天啊,很dry,两句话就聊死了。比如那个男生说喜欢看高尔夫的时候,你可以往下接:

girl: oh, any big games recently?  

guy: last weekend it was XXX, xxx

girl: thatsounds like a great game!  I never played gold but I always wantto .  do you think it'stoo late for me to start?  what's trickyabout it?  xxx

guy: the key to play golf is blablabla.  I don't think it's too late.  i can teach you if you want(如果对你有兴趣的话男生一般都会接这个茬).


看,第二个date有了吧。


如果说足球:


girl:yeah i know - hot football season right now and all guys are glued to the sofa and beers.  which one is your team/what's your fav team?  

guys: xxx

你就可以顺着问他: how's your team been doing this season then?  when's the next game?  which team are they playing? xxx (如果你不懂足球的话) i always wanted to understand football more.  sounds like a pretty complex game?

然后男生就开始滔滔不绝告诉你football怎么回事,你再来回问点细节问题。然后约着下次一起看球。


说你的project sounds exciting 之后,你可以接:

girl: yeah i am very excited about it.  how about you?  any exciting projects you have been working on?

然后话头又转回给男生了


说cooking的时候,那个男生都说了他新找到一个receipe做的很好吃但其实很简单,你应该顺着就接下去问:

girl:I love paella!  never tried to make it myself - looks complicated.   how did you do it?

然后男生就开始blabla讲怎么做这个菜。你可以穿插着问一些细节,这个天就聊下去了。末了你再说:

girl: that still sounds complicated to me! you must be a very experienced cook!i always have trouble dealing with the xxxx.  (如果你看他有兴趣的话可以给他讲一个你的cooking的小故事。)或者:that does sound not too bad at all.  I'm gonna give it a try this week too.   have you tried xxx?  


总的来说你跟人聊天要对他聊的这个topic有兴趣,能够形成一来一往的针对于这个话题的conversation。你的目的是have a good conversation and have a good time, 顺带考察这个人,而不是oh let's get a second date and get married. 还有关键要给男生扔一个open question,让他有机会滔滔不绝。这样既可以让他开心,有显摆的机会,又可以伺机多了解他一些。


btw这种聊天方式适合于任何社交环境。


祝好运。

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个人建议,仅供参考啊!
Sample 1
前几句没有什么问题。这里:
Guy: like 20 years I think - i used to be good, but was terrible last weekend!
No big plans for the week, what about u
Me: 20 years is a long time, you must be a pro! You should teach me some basics of golfing sometimes. I always wanted to learn, but never had the opportunity. Most of my friends are homebodies, or like shopping too much.
Regarding the week, I just got back from XXX. Spent some time with my family. Would you have time for a quick coffee or lunch this weekend? Maybe we can get to know each other a little bit more 😊

Sample 2:
Guy: Hi XXXXXX! What’s something you’ve learned to cook recently?
Me: I’ve tried miso salmon tofu recently. Sooooo good!!!  What type of food you like?
Guy: Oh wow that sounds great! I’m a big salmon eater. I’m not a great chef but I found a seafood paella recipe online recently, and it turned out really well! Easier than I thought.
Me: Paella sounds amazing, it requires many different kinds of seafood to make though. I am pretty good at doing science, so I am pretty good in the kitchen too!
Guy: Haha true! I think it’s also a creative expression. So I guess it’s both an art and a science! A piece of art that exists only for a few minutes and then is gone forever
Me: definitely, would you be interested cooking something together? My kitchen is pretty nice. 如果觉得第一次见面到家里不合适的话可以:
I have heard great things about this xxx market, would you like to go to check it out this weekend?
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见那么多人质量不好也失望。我差不多两周前见了一个,在Tinder上聊了两周对方要求见面。你们见面前聊太多了吧,我基本一天一个txt,别嚷自己陷进去。
最后编辑annesh 最后编辑于 2020-02-13 13:23:25
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